You are imposing your own human view on the matter and accepting it is the standard to which all others must be held. Relationships are not ordinarily considered an emotional outlet for my people. Indeed, Vulcans wish to indulge none.

[ 'Tell me what you need.'
'I need everyone to continue performing admirably.'

Though he does care for Nyota, he wouldn't want to put that on display beyond their private quarters, and even then ...

'I see you making choices that ignore all sense of self-preservation.'
'I do not understand your concerns. I will attempt to alleviate them as circumstances require.'

'I'll join you on the bridge. It's the only time I ever see you anymore.'

'I'm not here to cuddle, Spock.'

He tilts his head at the girl on the screen thoughtfully. ]

May I ask your name?