In relationships? If everyone was completely honest about everything that's wrong with them from day one, no one would be married. Couples should be honest, but dating definitely involves manipulation. [Something he's not great at, the whole little white lies to get a girl thing.]

My point was that if the language isn't natural to you, using it just to make people like you better is another level of that passive manipulation. I don't think it's a bad thing, but I think you should be aware of it.